I’ve pulled the plug, at least temporarily on Facebook. All the people I know and interact are on there. Today is the first full cold turkey day. I suppose that’s why I am writing a blog about Facebook. It’s gotten that bad.
Like any addiction, it was going smooth and easy. I didn’t post too much. I would even have days when I would post at all. I would withdrawal into oblivion. I had control on my Facebook habit.
My network is small in the Netherlands, being an expat mother, eager to start building a business and a few good friends. I participated in Facebook most because I wanted to keep my American ties. After 6 years of living here, I noticed, most people have moved on. However, the people I have connected with after being at home the last 4 years, are on Facebook. I was hooked in. Events and news and a feeling of total connectedness was there on my screen any minute of the day.
I could literally feel a need to check. Email, the thing we used to be obsessed about, became old news. It was Facebook I needed to check morning and night. Did anyone LIKE my post? What are my people saying? Can I contribute? Did I miss a conversation? What interesting things can I add to color others’ news feeds. I would become shaky. Felt driven to create something and interact with everyone.
This was madness. I am glued to a device, which has practically grown into my body. Any free minute checking to see if there was anything new. It’s not really Facebook I am quitting, but my mobile devices (of which I have 5).
Just yesterday, I started this detox. Instead of checking my phone while sitting next to my husband as our kids played in a park on one of the most gorgeous days of the year, I found myself climbing a tree. And then my husband came. And then my kids. And we were one happy monkey family on a gorgeous fall day!
It was true! Let go of the devices and Facebook to let our your inner monkey! I knew it was there all along. The irony was, this is what I want to post on Facebook. The pictures and the story-for the love able peanut gallery to like or ignore.
Today, I think I have had at least 10 itches to check Facebook and post something. People using fb messenger are sharing stories and discussing upcoming events. I am missing that, but my sanity is restored, somewhat.
Checking out is good. It’s a reality check. It also gives me time to clear out my email inbox and unsubscribe to the noise.
My experiment lasts 3 weeks until November 7. I will miraculously reappear. I will determine if I missed anything. Most likely, not too much. Updates to come.
(And yes, this will automatically, thanks to wordpress, be shared on facebook. You sneaky devil!)